Sometimes, you are not aware what causes your anger, how much anger you are holding inside or how to express your anger. You maybe angry about certain events of your own or other people’s action. Any little things can build into a full blown anger if not manage well. Control your anger before it controls you.

If you find yourself become increasingly irritable, you may have problem in dealing with your anger. Feeling angry is a normal human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it leads to problem in your work, in your personal relationship with others and the overall quality of your life.

It is an emotional state varies from intense, mild irritation to intense rage and fury accompanied by physiological and biological changes when your heart rate and blood pressure goes up. They may be cause from external and internal events in your life.

Anger can be suppress and redirect. When you are angry, hold in your anger, stop thinking about it and focus on something positive. The purpose is to inhibit or suppress and convert it into a more constructive behavior.

You goal is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the psychological arousal that anger causes. You can’t get rid of it, or avoid to things that enrage you, nor to change them but you have the courage to control your emotions.

People who easily angered has low tolerance for frustration and annoyance, inconveniences. They cannot take things that easy, and immediately infuriated if being corrected by his wrongdoing. Typically, people who are easily angered came from families that were disruptive, chaotic and cannot handle emotional strain. They became too irrational and very demanding doing it their way. If their demands are not meet, their disappointment become an anger. Some angry people uses this anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt.

An anger and frustration were caused by one’s personal problem in life. It is the natural response to difficulties. We felt hurt or irritated if someone or something obstructs our needs and desires. Why do we have such a hard time recognizing our feelings of vulnerability and hurts if we are insulted.

How can we control our anger to subside:

A simple relaxation will do. Deep breathing is helpful to calm down angry feeling. Make a plan, check your progress everyday. Resolve it the best of your intention and effort. In any given situation, focus on how you can handle and face the problem. In a heated discussion, slow down and think through your responses. Think about carefully what you want to say. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take time before answering. Give yourself a break. Find time for leisure to ease the feeling of anger.

Loss of life was the most stressful event. It causes major emotional crisis. Although death give meaning to our existence it reminds us that life is precious. We may not be prepared for the intensity and duration of our emotion,  how swiftly this mood change. We begin to doubt the ability of our mental health. These feeling were expression of powerful emotion that came to term with the loss. It is not easy to cope after a loved one dies.

Allow yourself to express your feeling, cry if needed to ease the pain. It relieves your sorrow. It may seemed helpful to separate yourself from the pain of ignoring your feeling but you cannot avoid grieving forever.

The death of your loved one is always difficult to accept especially if it is a sudden death. Your reaction was influenced by your relationship with the person who died. We knew grief was a normal response to sorrow, confusion and heavy emotion. Although death is part of our lives but the circumstances of her untimely death leave us to wonder why it is too soon.

Physical changes appeared: feeling numb, your body trembling, you have trouble breathing, feel weakness to your muscle, trouble sleeping and no drive for eating.

Feeling of guilt kept on saying “I’ve done nothing to help her!”.  It ate your spirit and damaging your resolve. Your grieving may take years before you can recover completely. But you have to continue living in your life alone forgetting her even if she shared with you in your dreams and aspiration in life. Move on with your life. Accept it even how painful it is to bear.

We all go through it whether we like it or not. Many of us already have. The fact is, the longer we live, the more we will experience death around us. Accept the inevitable no matter what the manner of death strike her.

IT IS VERY SHOCKING TO LEARN SOMEONE PASSED AWAY FROM US WITHOUT EVEN SAYING GOODBYE LEAVING US IN AN EMPTY SPACE.

In our bereavement, we always felt this emotional state:

Feeling shock? Yes, it became a long time process. It numbed the feeling that resembled like a living death. But it will pass away naturally.

Feeling anger? Yes, in  losing someone you love, you became angry for a period of time. You maybe angry to her for leaving you or angry with yourself that you failed to save her or angry with GOD for taking her away. You are angry because of the unfairness and injustice of life.

Feeling guilt? Yes, there was this human tendency to blame if something happen to our loved one. A degree of responsibility that failed haunt you. The feeling of loss will always coming back in your life even how you avoid it by consummating your inner self.

Feeling pain? Yes, of course! Its presence can be felt  throughout the entire period of your grief. The feeling of emptiness will continue to eat your very soul.

Feeling acceptance? Yes, let  it go.  Accept the reality of such loss. By accepting it you find peace. This emotional release gives you a  way to continue living alone with open mind. Ask Divine guidance, it can help a lot to manage  the grief.

Healing will continue for a period of time. What you can do is to give yourself time to heal naturally. Don’t try to develop another bout of emotional strain, it can only bring back the feeling you wanted to avoid, delaying your full recovery. It is the only chance you’ve got. Get your life back. Don’t let that feeling dominate you.