HOW PATIENT ARE YOU?

If you are impatient, you’re apt to be rude. Bad word comes out in your mouth without restraint. You spoke sharply and hurt somebody. Your behavior make others feel angry and uncooperative because they know they were being insulted by you. You disregarded their feeling believing it was just right for you. If they tell you in the same manner, can you allow it to get into you? What will be your immediate reaction? Are you happy or angry? You know it is not good. Then why not change your ways?

To be impatient, you have to develop a system of calming you down in a stressful situation. Learn how to control them.

An impatient person don’t like to waste time.  He always in a hurry without allowing  a possibility of delay. Are you one of them?

If you are with the group, humor them with funny stories while waiting to keep your impatience at bay until the delay is over. If you are too irritated and failed to think clearly because your bad mood is governing you, then let your imagination wander to see the beauty of nature. The purpose is to control the negative feeling  inside you and help to ease the tension that started to drain away from you.

In controlling your impatient is to examine the reason of your behavior. If it is only temporary, you annoyance will come to pass. But if you are always irritable and abrupt, maybe something is wrong in your head that need immediate counselling.

WHAT MAKES YOU ANGRY?

Sometimes, you are not aware what causes your anger, how much anger you are holding inside or how to express your anger. You maybe angry about certain events of your own or other people’s action. Any little things can build into a full blown anger if not manage well. Control your anger before it controls you.

If you find yourself become increasingly irritable, you may have problem in dealing with your anger. Feeling angry is a normal human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it leads to problem in your work, in your personal relationship with others and the overall quality of your life.

It is an emotional state varies from intense, mild irritation to intense rage and fury accompanied by physiological and biological changes when your heart rate and blood pressure goes up. They may be cause from external and internal events in your life.

Anger can be suppress and redirect. When you are angry, hold in your anger, stop thinking about it and focus on something positive. The purpose is to inhibit or suppress and convert it into a more constructive behavior.

You goal is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the psychological arousal that anger causes. You can’t get rid of it, or avoid to things that enrage you, nor to change them but you have the courage to control your emotions.

People who easily angered has low tolerance for frustration and annoyance, inconveniences. They cannot take things that easy, and immediately infuriated if being corrected by his wrongdoing. Typically, people who are easily angered came from families that were disruptive, chaotic and cannot handle emotional strain. They became too irrational and very demanding doing it their way. If their demands are not meet, their disappointment become an anger. Some angry people uses this anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt.

An anger and frustration were caused by one’s personal problem in life. It is the natural response to difficulties. We felt hurt or irritated if someone or something obstructs our needs and desires. Why do we have such a hard time recognizing our feelings of vulnerability and hurts if we are insulted.

How can we control our anger to subside:

A simple relaxation will do. Deep breathing is helpful to calm down angry feeling. Make a plan, check your progress everyday. Resolve it the best of your intention and effort. In any given situation, focus on how you can handle and face the problem. In a heated discussion, slow down and think through your responses. Think about carefully what you want to say. Listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take time before answering. Give yourself a break. Find time for leisure to ease the feeling of anger.